tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20957385.post114208023198942492..comments2023-11-02T06:31:21.226-07:00Comments on Another Mommy Moment: What Kind of Mom are You?Stacyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00753648076473629206noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20957385.post-18331830772289274602010-05-08T20:04:06.507-07:002010-05-08T20:04:06.507-07:00I'm going to read both her books next week. I...I'm going to read both her books next week. I was in a playgroup of about 9 mom's that got very cliquey. So what is the term for the mom that goes against the Queen Bee? I organized things in the group as well...at one point, I saw how the Queen loved to have the power, I started organizing things just so she wouldn't HAVE the power. If you did an activity and she missed it, she would reorganize the same activity (Girls night out). She would do things that wouldn't really interest her that others in the group were doing just so she wouldn't miss out on anything (scrapbooking). <br /><br />A Desperate Wannabe who was a big debbie downer sold me out - well she was very mean to me in an e-mail and hit reply all. I left the group after that. It was toxic and I was sick of the BS. I stood up to the Queen Bee and wasn't going to put up with her bullying me. These people do exist. The sidekick excluded a few people on a consistent basis - those would probably be the outcast mom's - outcasts because they worked or were different than them. At one point I likely became an outcast because I decided to homeschool. They ridiculed me for that. I moved from that town, and I'm a much happier person not having to deal with them and their BS. Not seeing them makes life a whole lot easier.<br /><br />But this article, whether people like it or not, it's true. These people do exist. High school didn't end for some people. They have to live on drama to make their life exciting. The Queen Bee had been on anti-depressants for years and had a very verbally abusive mom...of which she carried onto her children who could do no wrong. I disliked her oldest girl from the getgo. <br /><br />John Holt wrote a book called Dumbing us Down. He talked about the difference between a network and a community. A network is a group of people who come together for a common reason. The friendships may seem like real ones, but when you quit providing for them what they need or want, they throw you to the wayside. A community wouldn't do that.<br /><br />My playgroup was a network, and I believe many are. You may find a few real friends within a playgroup. The real friends I got from the playgroup were the ones that didn't want to put up with the BS either, and the ones that were hurt by the actions of the Queen Bee, the sidekick and the Torn Wannabe.Vickihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12109198140219347084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20957385.post-1145475521598624872006-04-19T12:38:00.000-07:002006-04-19T12:38:00.000-07:00Wow, this whole essay is so damn depressing.So bas...Wow, this whole essay is so damn depressing.<BR/><BR/>So basically, you get to be obnoxious, invisible or an outcast?<BR/><BR/>Yikes.<BR/><BR/>Makes me think the whole 'mom' thing is a pretty raw deal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20957385.post-1142389313739526142006-03-14T18:21:00.000-08:002006-03-14T18:21:00.000-08:00Rosalind Wiseman's book "Queen Bees and Wannabees"...Rosalind Wiseman's book "Queen Bees and Wannabees" is very good. And very scary if you have a girl. <BR/><BR/>I'm "Magazine Junkie" mom, too...lolIzzyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02665580688897720715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20957385.post-1142203660837936672006-03-12T14:47:00.000-08:002006-03-12T14:47:00.000-08:00Wow ... I have to say, this whole evaluation bothe...Wow ... I have to say, this whole evaluation bothers me. It's all so snarky, no? I mean, I'm not one to talk about being snarky but this article kind of struck me as mean-spirited. I guess I might be wrong, I dunno, but I'd like to think of it in a more complex way, like Carolyn said, I think that most of us are all of these at some point or another ? I dunno cuz I'm not officially part of the mommy world just yet, but ...MrsFortunehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17326242993598760618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20957385.post-1142196416059310092006-03-12T12:46:00.000-08:002006-03-12T12:46:00.000-08:00How about "blissful mom"? As in "ignorance is bli...How about "blissful mom"? As in "ignorance is bliss"? I try to ignore the cliquey stuff...but I have to admit it's hard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20957385.post-1142192347076955602006-03-12T11:39:00.000-08:002006-03-12T11:39:00.000-08:00Is it possible to be all of the above?Is it possible to be all of the above?Carolyn S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16460383065056980157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20957385.post-1142148870107980582006-03-11T23:34:00.000-08:002006-03-11T23:34:00.000-08:00great post! thanks for sharing parts of the articl...great post! thanks for sharing parts of the article!city dwellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14398531983965018490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20957385.post-1142137792710614002006-03-11T20:29:00.000-08:002006-03-11T20:29:00.000-08:00I'm hoping I'm the Floater mom but could be a bit ...I'm hoping I'm the Floater mom but could be a bit of the Reformed mom although I've never been a queen bee so not sure there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20957385.post-1142133494241357952006-03-11T19:18:00.000-08:002006-03-11T19:18:00.000-08:00Ah, heck, and I was hoping the whole cliquey thing...Ah, heck, and I was hoping the whole cliquey thing went away after high school.<BR/><BR/>Did they have a category for Exhausted Mom? 'Cause that wuld be me...Lieslhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00984335084869819177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20957385.post-1142127646273743232006-03-11T17:40:00.000-08:002006-03-11T17:40:00.000-08:00I would like to think I'm a floater but I have a b...I would like to think I'm a floater but I have a bad vibe sometimes that other mom's think I'm a Queen Bee. <BR/><BR/>I'm a magazine junkie too. I can't count how many I actually get to read though! Seems like there's not enough hours in the day.Sabrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681023354474064779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20957385.post-1142105555298792212006-03-11T11:32:00.000-08:002006-03-11T11:32:00.000-08:00From my point of view, I'm a Floater Mom. It real...From my point of view, I'm a Floater Mom. It really is the nicest description from that whole list and I HATE drama. I would hope that others see me that way, too!Chicky Chicky Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18056206889322232109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20957385.post-1142105302129368152006-03-11T11:28:00.000-08:002006-03-11T11:28:00.000-08:00I'm probably a combination of floater and steamrol...I'm probably a combination of floater and steamrolled. I like the description of reformed, but I've never been a Queen Bee so I guess I don't qualify. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20957385.post-1142091127676284242006-03-11T07:32:00.000-08:002006-03-11T07:32:00.000-08:00I'm definitely the floater mom, but I do have some...I'm definitely the floater mom, but I do have some of the steamrolled mom in me LOL.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00448386993712122412noreply@blogger.com