Having a Secret Crush is Good For You

The Today Show did a segment on secret mommy crushes. I love this idea! Here's an excerpt from the article online.

"Having a secret mommy crush doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, about to have an affair, in a bad marriage and/or that you married the wrong guy. So why do these crushes happen?

Secret crushes can make a woman feel like a woman again. It’s hard to feel like your sexy self when you’re constantly cleaning up dirty laundry, dirty diapers, helping the kids with homework or cooking all the time. Sometimes being a mom and wife, although terrific in countless ways, can get a woman feeling more like a servant than a supermodel.

Having a crush is really less about the other person and more about us having the feelings we want to have, i.e., like feeling alive, excited, exciting and beautiful. Sometimes crushes are motivators to do something nice for yourself, like work out or buy something pretty and new, activities that some moms have a hard time doing for themselves. Secret crushes, when not acted on, are safe, sexy yet simultaneously ego-boosting."

Totally true! Do you agree?

When Do You Call Someone Friend?

My daughter has made a new friend at school. His name is Patrick. I've also made a new friend - Patrick's mom.

It's almost inevitable, once your kids start going to school, that you'll become friendly with some of the moms you see in the morning. Patrick's mom has even invited us to the park for a playdate. She's super nice and always offers to watch the girls if I'm ever in a jam.

While the idea totally rocks, I find myself reluctant to say yes. Not because I am worried about leaving my daughters with her. I feel guilty. Trust me, I would love the break every now and then. She offered to pick big J up from school so that I don't have to bundle the baby up for a 5 minute ride in the car once the weather gets cold. How nice is that?

Still, I always think that people say those things just to be nice. And then I would feel bad if my kids were bad, ya know. I haven't posted about it yet, but I had a babysitter for a while and she dumped us. I'm convinced it was because the baby was too hard for her too handle. She's the best baby in the world, but she doesn't sleep well away from home and I had to bring her there during nap time. Anyway, I'll have to think about it.

Here's my quesion though - at what point do you call someone a friend? I always refer to Melissa as "Patrick's mom," or "one of the moms from J's school." We meet for playdates, we've exchanged phone numbers, but I don't refer to her as my friend. Maybe as time goes by, it'll feel more like a friendship. What do you think?

Too Much TV?

My daughter and I were talking about Christmas this morning. She asked me if I remember the Wonder Pets episode where the duck breaks the snowglobe and I said yes. She thens proceeds to tell me, "It's coming soon to DVD."

The Longest Day

I want to crawl back under the covers and hide today. I'm just having, "one of those days." My daughter is sick. She's got a cold. No big deal under any other circumstances, but she is refusing to sleep. I put her down for a nap at 2:00 and it took her 45 minutes to calm down enough to close her eyes. 45 minutes of screaming, crying, coughing. I really wanted to run away. The last two days all she wants is to sleep in my arms. When I put her down in her crib, she wails.

I called my husband for some sympathy, some words of encouragement. I should have known better. He actually laughed.

My 4 year-old is driving me nuts, too. She knows exactly which buttons to push and she's pushing them all.

Calgon take me away ....

Isn't She Precious?

I was going through some old notebooks the other day and found something funny. You see, I write everything down. I'm not much of a journal keeper, but I am always jotting down little things here and there. Whenever J says something silly, I put it on paper so that I'll remember years from now.

Here are some of her gems:

Me: Oh look, it's a half moon
Julianna: Oh no, somebody broke it.

(Watching a group of lions on TV rolling around in the grass)
Me: They look just like Coco (our dog).
Julianna: Yeah, but they don't eat poop.

(Listening to the wind blow)
Julianna: Oh no, the trees are breaking.

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