1.13.2006

New Mom Pointers

Sleep when the baby sleeps. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself. Take the phone off the hook, leave a note on the front door that says, “Mom and baby napping – no visitors please.” You'd be surprised how many people will stop by without calling first.

If you're offered help, take it. If you need help, ask for it. Don’t expect people to understand or know what you’re going through.

Stop feeling so guilty. Becoming a mom is the most wonderful thing in the world, but it's also the most difficult - at least it was for me. I learned way too late that it's okay to take time out for yourself. It's okay to love your baby, but not always like her. It's okay to admit that you hate being a parent somedays. I still feel like everyday is a struggle, but I wouldn't change it for the world.

Do one thing for yourself everyday. Whether it’s asking your husband to put the baby to bed early so you can catch your favorite show or stealing an hour to read a book. It’s important to hold on (tight) to the things that make you happy. It's so easy to give in to the routine of mommy doing everything. Let daddy take over for a while so you can regain your sanity.

Don't hibernate in the house. As long as she's dressed appropriately, there's nothing wrong with taking your little bundle of joy out for a stroll. It'll make you feel so much better to be out among the living.

Ignore the six week rule. Even though doctors say it’s OK to have sex 6 weeks after giving birth, make sure you're ready. My husband marked the date on the calendar and was ready and waiting that night. Let's just say it wasn't pretty. Bottom Line: Don't be afraid to tell your hubby that you need more time.

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