5.17.2006

Sorry Friends

I don't think I'm going to be able to post today because my hubby is home from work. He doesn't know about the blog and whenever I spend more than 5 minutes on the computer he ends up standing over my shoulder.

Do you think I should just tell him and get it over with? I don't want to because then I won't be able to write honestly and complain and that's why I am here.

This is a pain in the ass though. I had a great post planned on all the things I've leanred working at The Little Gym. Like how NOT to discipline your child in a room full of parents and ... goddamit, he's calling my name. I'll try to check in later!!!

26 comments:

pamperedjenn said...

I don't think you should tell him. I have been a lurker for a while and to me it seems like this is your outlet. You get advice from people that helps you to deal with life and there is nothing wrong with that. It's not like you are doing anything wrong.

Christina_the_wench said...

Nah, keep this as yours. I don't tell my hubby either and writing honestly is the way to go. Finding something that is all MINE MINE MINE is a good thing. hehe

rhonda said...

My hubz knows, so of course there are topics I can't discuss.

But as for you...keep it a secret. This is your cheap form of therapy :)

The Flip Flop Mamma! said...

I'm torn. But, it is fun to have your own little secret thing. It's not like your cheating on him. This is your outlet. I don't know. I tagged you by the way.

Mama of 2 said...

I say save your great post for tomorrow and keep your secret to yourself. It's funny I have a family blog on Yahoo 360 that I can't really vent my true frustrations for fear that at any given moment the person I am frustrated with will read my wild thoughts...it's rather inhibiting so I started my own anonymous blog at blogger....please check it out *pimping myself sorry* where I can speak freely and I am sure I will.

So I say keep your little secret I promise not to tell.

Mrs. Chicky said...

Yep, I'm going to ditto what the other mama's said. Keep it to yourself and that way you won't have to water down your thoughts because your husband is reading.

Stephanie said...

If you tell him, he is going to go through all your archives . If you think some things that you have written in the past might piss him off, then I definately would not tell him about it.

Shana said...

My husband doesn't know about mine either. I have to have my freedom! It really sucks that your husband hovers when you're online. That would drive me crazy!

SugarMama said...

I must say that since my blog is out in the open with family and friends I oftenly watch what I have to say. But I've actually gotten used to it and I've always stuck to my own blog rules.

If it will change your beautiful postings, I will have to selfishly say - don't ever tell. hehe.

BTW-can't wait to read about The Little Gym story....and boy, dod I have something to contribute! hehe

Sandra said...

I have to say that if there's ONE thing I've learnt after 8 years of marriage, is to NOT hide anything from him. He knows about my blog and reads it every night at work. I've never said anything mean about him, but we joke about it, like if we've had a fight he will say "Oh great, I will read all about it on your blog tonight" LOL

He knows it's my blog and I've told him upfront that I won't ever post lies on it, but if he does get on my nerves or does something annoying, I might mention it on the blog, it's nothing personal, just my way of venting etc. He understands.

But in your case, I would probably not tell him anything. This way you can keep venting and using it as an outlet :)
I don't know, I'm torn in this LOL

Zephra said...

I told my husband but I knew he would never look at it but I don't think you should tell him.

Christina said...

Tough call. I mean, it's nice to have somewhere to go where you can vent your frustrations without worrying about him getting upset. Sort of like a virtual chat with your female friends.

But at the same time, it's so hard to keep a secret. Especially when you want to write and he's around.

My husband knows about my blog and reads it daily. It limits what I can say a lot, because if I say anything even remotely negative about him, he gets hurt. It's to the point now where I say, "Just so you know, I'm mentioning your grumpy mood in my blog today, OK?" before I write the post.

Liesl said...

That's a tough one. If you're worried about him finding it himself, it might be better to tell him now. You could take down any posts you don't want him to see.

On the other hand, it's an outlet that you badly need. If you feel secure that he won't find it and/or get upset, then probably keeping it is the best idea.

jen said...

Keep it as yours. Sometimes...it's best to have a place that is all yours. The people we are married to do not have to know every little in and out of our minds...
Think of it as if you kept a journal. You would not want him going in there...and he would not have the right to, ya know?

Nicole said...

I say don't tell. My husband knows, but he seems to respect it enough not to read it. That helps! I don't think I'd have one otherwise (not that I write much he'd be mad about). But, it's like a diary and who needs the hubby reading that.

Pattie said...

Gee, that's a tough one. My husband and my family and friends know about mine and they all read it. I will admit that I hold back sometimes because I don't want to hurt or offend anyone. I do believe in being truthful with ones spouse. However, if you are using this as a form of therapy and it is like talking privately to your girlfriends, then maybe you shouldn't mention it.

Mommy off the Record said...

I've just started to read your blog so I probably shouldn't be giving advice at all, but for what it's worth, I would say that if the blogging is helping you, then it would be nice to keep it private from him. However, if he ever were to find it somehow, would feel bad or betrayed in any way? That would be my only concern. I am currently keeping my site private from friends and family AND hubby so I can feel free to write what I want, but I do worry about someone stumbling on it somehow and getting upset by something I've written. So, I'm not sure what I would do if I were you. It's a hard decision I think.

Domestic Chicky said...

Ooh..tough call. My choice in your case would be not to say anything. Start another "hubby and family safe" blog if you want. We'll all come comment! On the other hand, if he knows his occaisional jackassed-ness would be posted for all to see, he might keep it to himself. Just a thought.

chelle said...

I was so decided then I read the other commenters....

It really does seem to be an outlet for you and I envy that. However it may be a real eye opener for him. He may understand way more than you could ever say.

It is something to think about for sure, the decision so does not have to be made today though!

Chase said...

I say for sure keep it your own thing. I don't really know you or your hubby, but if he's the kind of guy who would say "you're not a priority, you're a bitch" then he won't understand having a place online to vent.

I'm still sore at your hubby for that one, btw. Hmph.

Meg said...

Oh, just smack him and tell him to shut the hell up. Men are so helpless, I swear!

Awesome Mom said...

My husband dosen't know about this but since the computer is in the living room he sees me blogging, he just dosen't know what it is that I am doing. I have no plans to tell anyone that I have met face to face about my blog. I would feel the need to censor myself.

Lena said...

Oh, what a tangled web we weave...

;) Just kidding.

Go ahead and tell him only if you're already honest with him at home about how you feel. My husband is super sensitive and I learned that he didn't mind reading about himself negatively on my blog if it was something we had already talked about and settled.

Guys just don't like to be blindsided. They're delicate like that. :p

Mama M said...

I say just tell him. That way if you are feeling passive aggressive and you want him to do something you could write it in the blog :)

On another note, a new Little Gym just opened up by me. Do you like it?

~d said...

Geez, this sounds familiar. I cannot be sitting here when he comes in from work, wakes up, passes thru the room...it looks like this is all I do ( coff-coff )
I mean, if I am IM'ing someone I am like: gotta go the husband is here.
Try to enjoy your day!

bitemycookie said...

well, i am ashamed to say i am a relatively new reader too, but here's my only thought (and you may have addressed this in past posts so forgive my foot in my mouth if i manage to put it there), what if someday someone randomly surfs the interwebs and blogs etc and finds the pics of your beautiful j, recognizes her and mentions it to him? i am a paranoid mo-fo tho, and that likely wouldnt happen (but as we all know, it can), but all that said, if this is your "diary" then you have a right to keep it a secret. having your whole farking world in on your URL definitely can change your content. really enjoying your blog.