The family and I went to a graduation party last night for my neice and Hubby and I argued over what to give.
I said, "Just a card. She's graduating from 8th grade for christ's sake!"
He said, "Well, what is everyone else giving?"
This is where I got pissed.
"Who cares what everyone else is giving. It's not like she's graduating from college. It's 8TH GRADE! I never got anything for graduating 8th grade ... or high school ... or college."
He said, "Neither did I, but I'm not showing up empty handed if everyone else is giving money.
So we called his brother and asked what they were doing.
Much to my dismay, they were giving her money.
For a while I thought this was an Italian thing. Forgive me for stereotyping, but they sure do throw around a lot of money. In my Irish family, a card was good enough. I've got a sneaking suspicion, however, that this is a pretty common thing.
When you go to a party, any kind of party, do you feel pressure to give a gift when you might not have otherwise? Am I a mean, wretched person for not wanting to give a 13 year-old 50 bucks for a goddam 8th grade graduation??
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