Sex, UTI's, and Videotape

Okay so there's no videotape, but I got your attention didn't I?

Thanks for all your comments and well wishes yesterday. I made a doctor's appointment for today at 3 o'clock. You guys are like my real-life mom yelling at me to see a doctor. I hate going. I feel like it's a waste of time. Especially since I have to bring a toddler in with me.

This is the first time I've ever had a UTI. Monday night, I felt this intense need to urinate. I was uncomfortable and every time I went to the bathroom only a little bit came out. It was painful and there was a weird smell. I checked out WebMD and all the symptoms were there.

Pain or burning when you urinate.
An urge to urinate frequently but usually passing only small quantities of urine.
Dribbling (inability to control urine release).
Pain or a feeling of heaviness in your lower abdomen.
Reddish or pinkish urine.
Foul-smelling urine.
Cloudy urine.
Pain in your back just below the rib cage, on one side of your body (flank pain).

Fortunately, J had some antibiotics left over from her last ear infection and I took some. Trying to sleep was useless, but after a while I started to feel a little better. I didn't have to get up every five minutes. And yesterday when I woke up, I was much better. Could one dose of antibiotics have cleared it up? Last night I felt a little uncomfortable again so I took another dose of antibiotics.

I'm pretty sure I know what happened. Hubby and I are trying to have another baby. So far we've been unsuccessful. It's actually been bumming me out a little because it didn't take very long to get pregnant with J and it's been a couple of months already.

Anyway, I had this brilliant idea - instead of going to the bathroom after sex, just go to bed. This way, all of his little swimmers could make their way to the land of fertilization without any problems. I've always peed after sex, but most of Hubby's 'love juice' leaks out before I even make it to the bathroom. BTW, is that normal? It feels like a lot sometimes, like everything he just ejaculated has spilled out onto the sock we use to clean up. And another thing I've always wondered ~ if he 'pulls out' like Hubby and I did for years, what do you use to clean up?

Soooo, I simply went to bed the past THREE nights after sex. Yes, I said THREE NIGHTS...IN A ROW! Chances are, that's why I got a bladder infection. I just wasn't sure if there was a mild version because every woman I've talked to says they last a couple of days. I guess I'll just have to wait and see what happens at the doc.

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Edited to add: I went to the doctor and I've got a bladder infection.


Nicole said...

I think you have to take a full set of antibiotics for the infection really to clear up. So, even if you feel better, you're supposed to keep taking them. I hope you continue to feel better.

I think it's pretty normal for all the "love juice" to come out. It always amazes me how much there is. When I was trying to get pregnant with my daughter, it took for ever. My doctor actually said to have sex every other night, not every night. Otherwise, your hubby may be shooting blanks! I even resorted to lying in bed for 30 minutes after sex with my feet in the air. But, then I went to the bathroom. I think by then, what's going to make it, makes it. Good luck! Some of this advice sounds silly now, but it's what we did.

mamatulip said...

Yuck, UTI's are the worst. Julia just got over one and a bladder infection and she was *sick*. I hope you're feeling better soon.

I think it is normal for the 'love juice' to come out -- those swimmers are fast, they'll get there...but there's always gravity, you know? Good luck!

chelle said...

I have never had a UTI, however the women I knew that have say it is terrible. See a doctor, it can only help.

Always leakage! We have been trying too and have had no luck!! I know how frustrating it is!

Sandra said...

Ok there's always leakage, but what worked for me when I was trying to get pregnant, and let me tell you it WORKED, was that hubby and I did it when I was ovulating. I usually counted 14 days after my period was done and that is when I was ovulating, that's when we did it the most LOL
Another thing was, right after sex, instead of getting up straight away and heading to the bathroom to clean up, I lay on my back for about 5 minutes just to increase the chances of the sperm making it to the RIGHT place LOL Then get up and go ahead and clean up etc.

I did this with 3 of my pregnancies, and got pregnant straight away. I'm not kidding you, the most it took me was a month to get pregnant :)

Good luck,


geenalyn said...

yep i used gravity too...i would put a pillow under my bum and keep my legs in the air for 30 min after having sex when we were concieving (i was also taking fertilty drugs though)...and as for leakage...always

grayelephant said...

i'm glad you made a doctor's appointment. make sure you tell the doc that you took some antibiotics already (even though he will probably reprimand you for it), just in case it skews the urine test. (it's possible that the antibiotics you took cleared the UTI, but supposedly you should take the entire treatment, even after you feel better, so you won't get resistant to the antibiotic.)

hope you feel better! as for the jiz that spills out... i think it's normal. we use either his shirt, boxers or any dirty laundry laying around to clean up the juices (hehe).

as for getting pregnant, when your mucus discharge is stretchy (like uncooked egg whites), your chances of getting preggers is much higher (like sandra said, around ovulation). good luck!

Pink said...

Sounds like you are on the right track. Antibiotics and cranberry juice always help me feel better and get over an infection fast.

And as for the mess... we always keep small hand towels in one of my dresser drawers. They are always handy and then we just toss them into the laundry basket and when I do laundry they go right back in the bedroom. Works for us.

Good luck on the pregnancy issue. Be patient, stressing to much about it could actually make it harder to conceive.

Courtney said...

I have to laugh about the "three nights in a row" thing. Yup, that sounds like my husband and me. Of course, I added another two nights in there just to be safe. Seriously by the fifth night, I was like, "Just put it in and get over it."

And leakage is totally normal. Kinda nasty, but normal.

Feel better soon!

Tuesday Girl said...

UTIs are terrible, I have had three of them in my life. Good luck.
I always pee after sex too, funny because we are trying to get pregnant also and know you have me rethinking the peeing!

Christina said...

Yes, leakage is always an issue, but remember it's not just his fluids, it's yours as well. That's why it seems like so much.

There are lots of great tricks for getting pregnant quickly. I could write a book here about it, but instead I'll just say check out the book, "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". Great book, and using their methods we were pregnant within a month with Cordy.

Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah said...

Yuck. UTI's suck the most.

Anonymous said...

Ok, when we used the "pullout" method, we used a lot of rolled up toilet paper. This is what my dr. told me and we got pregnant the first month. Count 14 days from the 1st day of your period and do it 6 days before that 14th day, and 6 days afterward. Of course we didn't do it everyday for 12 days, but like everyother day. and, the stuff that comes out is the actual "semen (sp?)" the sperm stay in and travel up. and my Dr. told me to always pee before and after sex. Of course, you will have a better orgasm if your bladder is full, so I never pee before, but always after.

Karla said...

UTI's are the worst. I feel your pain.

I've never had to try to conceive so I'm not really sure how that works. In my world I just ended up staring at pink lines wondering how the hell that happend.

Good luck with your trying to conceive, I'll send you lots of my fertility vibes. A friend of mine makes fertility bracelets that have worked like a charm on a lot of people. If you decide you want one, let me know. It's a little superstitious, I know.

Meg said...

UTIs sucks. I've had a few, but none of mine lasted long, either. It's definately worth going to the doc, just so you know it clears up.

Yeah, the leakage of "man juice" is normal. Now that I'm having birth control issues we're using condoms, but before I was pregnant I would always make a mad dash to the bathroom to leak out all of the baby batter. It always felt like so much!

Good luck with getting pregnant! I hope it works out for you soon, but if not, you're at least having fun trying (I hope).

Mommy off the Record said...

Three nights of sex...in a row? That's like more than I've had in the last 3 months. Oops. Did I say that in public?

P.S. I hope the UTI clears up soon! Hang in there.

SugarMama said...

UTI is such a bitch. I know because I am so prone to it! uurgh...Peeing after sex will definitely help, but there are many other reasons how we get UTI.

Cranberry Juice dearie! It helps a little.

BTW- Humping like rabbits to get pregnant is an endless trail for us too. Well, I finally just found out I'm prego again, so after 2 years of aggravatingly trying I am now wondering what I got myself into AGAIN...hehe

dennis said...


Nope, I got nothing else to add. Just -- Damn!!

carrie said...

Pretend like you don't want to get pregnant, that always worked for me! But, seriously, I hope that it works out for you soon and do whatever it takes to get the uti cleared up. If memory serves me right, they are extremely painful and probably not conducive to reproduction! Crossing my fingers . . .


Nancy said...

I am glad you did go to the doctor -- I hope it all gets completely cleared up too.

I also hope my husband doesn't read your blog and expect sex three nights in a row from me! ;-)